None of us want to coddle our children, but that is what happens when we repeatedly bail them out. When they didn’t keep up with their things, didn’t finish an assignment or overslept, natural consequences would be a better teacher than nagging. Sometimes we bail them out because it is easier than letting them suffer the consequences or because it would make the parent look bad.
- You lost your coat? Do you have any money, I’ll take you to the thrift store to buy another.
- I am sorry you didn’t have time to pack your lunch, but you were told to do it last night.
- You will have to do extra credit work to make up for that bad grade.
There are times to give grace in a situation and we shouldn’t expect our children to get it right every time. However, slipping into a habit of bailing out our children will keep them from maturing. We want them to grow in responsibility while they are growing in stature.